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Letters to my Mum

I can’t believe today is actually here

Hi Mum,

How are you? How’s Grandma?

We have talked about today so many times with you and so many times since, I can’t believe it’s actually here.

Today we say cheerio and celebrate Grandma’s life.

We have decided to do the eulogy from the 4 of us as Grandchildren. Vics and I have worked on it together and I think it is a fun loving tribute…

‘Grandma

Vics

Over 22 years we all went to Primley Park

Happy holidays for us as kids, memories that left a mark

At this sad time, we all reflected on our special past

Those memories of Grandma and Gramps, which shall forever last.

Back to the 80s when we were all so young

A time when our great summer holidays had only just begun.

Big bags of 20ps filled the side-board drawer

Ready for us to go and spend, as we walked through the kitchen door.

The spare room beds made with their blankets and stripey sheet

Ready for us to be tucked in tight from our heads to our feet.

Off on day trips in the car to visit the different sights

The zoo, Trago Mills and Shire Horse Centre, were a few of those delights.

The car was always prepped with goodies for us on our trips

Their flasks, some biscuits, a picnic and fizzy kia ora for us to sip

The only downside on these trips was Grandma’s love of the car horn

Beeping it here, there and everywhere, making the beeper very worn.

Our favourite thing was to go down to the sea,

armed with mats, towels and inflatables, we were as happy as can be.

Torbay Leisure Centre was the place where we learnt to swim

Grandma coaching from the side and encouraging us to dive in.

Grandma loved her Jack and Vera at the same time every night

It was a time for us to be quiet or to tip toe out of sight.

Grandma loved an ice cream and this was always an evening treat,

Vanilla ice cream with crispy wafers, something we all loved to eat.

Long walks down the 80 something steps to visit the great joke shop

Putting the fake scratch on her precious car and making Grandma blow her top.

Fun times with the four of us spending time together

Sleeping in the basement, the nights that lasted forever.

A special trip at the end of the hols was to see the Torquay lights

A very big ice cream after we walked around all night.

Pen

Many different memories of Grandma made up from our past

Moving on to more recent times, as time has flown so fast.

Grandma moving to Ashford away from the home she knew

Mum did her best, but could’nt her give back a sea view.

We said goodbye to our precious Mum and Grandma to her Jen

With all of us knowing that life would not be the same again.

(‘pause’ please could we just take a moment to remember Mum)

As Grandma moved to Heathfield, sharing the same tories again and again,

She was definitely at the ready with her pad and pen.

Daily notes were written asking for many different things,

Whilst her bed was filled with teddies from all her bingo wins.

She would have her tea and biscuits and always ask about her hair,

Whilst popping to her room and then demanding back her chair.

Grandma was very particular about the way you made her bed,

And a standard size pillow case filled her with dread. 

Sitting on her bed was definitely not allowed,

With her daily routine exercises she was very proud.

Her fitness at her ripe old age was definitely a gift,

Always being stubborn and refusing to take the lift.

Life changed for Grandma last year when she had a nasty fall,

But she carried on with determination and still gave her all.

Grandma was a character, who liked to put you to the test,

Sleep well dear Grandma, you will be missed, we are glad you’re now at rest.

In the words of Grandma, it is not goodbye, it is cheerio.

Cheerio Grandma x’

I hope you like it x

I tried to do similar to your order of service and added extra photos.

Jim’s doing a reading. I thought it would be lovely for him to read the poem that Grandma has had since we lost Gramps

If tears could build a stairway

and thoughts a memory lane

I’d walk right up to heaven

and bring you home again

No Farewell words were spoken

No time to say good-bye

You were gone before I knew it

And only God knows why.

My heart’s still active in sadness

And secret tears still flow

What it meant to lose you

No one can ever know.

But now I know you want us

To mourn for you no more

To remember all the happy times

Life still has much in store.

Since you’ll never be forgotten

I pledge to you today

A hallowed place within my heart

Is where you’ll always stay.

God knows why, with chilling touch,

Death gathers those we love so much,

And what now seems so strange and dim,

Will all be clear, when we meet Him.

I Knew you for a Moment

I have chosen some music as that was the part that I wasn’t sure about and I have put your photo in with Grandma.

I thought I was doing ok the last few days, I went back to work but yesterday the pressure of my job on top of today was too much. I ended up leaving at lunchtime. I needed to sort out the last few things. I had the funeral director call to make sure everything was in place and I finished the eulogy with Vics.

I just need to get the food this morning.

I feel so deeply sad today, I know Grandma had to go to sleep but it is strange without either of you here.

I hope I have done Grandma and you proud today, I have tried to make sure everything is sorted out x

I love and miss you both.

I still love this photo x


All my love

Pen 😘😘😘😢😘😘

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