Hi Mummy Darling,
Sorry it’s been a few days, things have been crazy.
I’m trying to get used to new ‘normal’ now I’m back at work, it’s been quite tough.
On Wednesday imprinted out loads of photos and bought a new picture frame so I now have new photos all around me. I’m not trying to change everything because you’re gone just making it new.
Mike had the woman from Herbalife come and see him in the evening as Kirsty and Percy were raving about it! I’m so pleased with his results, he’s only slightly above good for everything so I’ve just told him to get out on his bike more.
I’m still just trying to do what I enjoy at work at the mo, which is making each day manageable but I’m just taking it one day at a time and getting through that day.
To be honest most of the time it just feels like I haven’t seen you for ages, will it ever become completely real that you are gone?
Thursday evening I met Jenna for coffee and dessert. She’s so fab and supportive. When we left she gave me the biggest hug and told me that I’m just amazing. I answered with you don’t have any other choice and Jen bless her responded with yes you do and you’ve chosen to be amazing. :-D. I don’t see it that way I just see it as coping.
Friday we had a really lovely day out with the Leo, Max and Jemma. We took them all to Leeds Castle, it was a really lovely day. The girls had their faces painted, you would’ve loved them, apart from that they just ran and scootered for hours.
We had the usual breakfast yesterday, which again, as with everything. Is strange without you here. I made sure Dad had all the breakfast stuff he needed, I know it’s what you would’ve done and I know that Vic’s would get annoyed at Dad so I try to avoid that :-D.
Vic’s and Richard’s garden looks amazing, I just got a bit upset about everything we are all doing. With you so unwell, everything stood still for so long and now we are getting everything done and the one person who would’ve been most excited and pleased for us all is you. I’m so sorry Mum. I’m sorry we didn’t get it all done with you’re to see it.
Vic’s has found this week really hard, I think that’s mixture of Isabelle walking, the garden being done and her seeing Sheila this week. We spent the day together yesterday, it was really lovely. I helped Vic’s with house stuff and then we took the girls to, yep you guessed it, Leeds Castle again.
There are so many places that I associate with you but we didn’t really go to Leeds Castle with you. Even though you are constantly in my thoughts, it’s not heartbreaking and overwhelming to go there. Until we are watching the jousting and they start playing Carminative Burana, that made us ink of you :-D.
Mike’s working both days this weekend, I was side swiped but the feelings of sadness and loneliness when I thought about the weekend without you. Sunday would always be lunch with you, Dad and Grandma and then you and I would either take the girls out or play games with them. I’m just finding things to do instead.
Chloe’s got jiu jitsu this morning, Nikki and her girls are coming back here afterwards for a bit and then Dad is coming over for dinner so the girls can see him before he goes away. I just need to organise for Chloe to be collected, I’m sure the amazing Jemma will help me out.
I still have a candle lit for you when I’m at home, for some reason it makes me feel like you have a presence still and that you are here with us.
The girls still all mention you at different times. Madison did a drawing for you yesterday morning and said she would give it to you when you come back because it will be nearly your birthday. Bless her heart.
Grandma’s doing ok, I do think she has gone down hill since the celebration of your life, she’s actually walking with a limp where her ankles hurting. She’s wearing her really old sandals though, so I have had her shoes re-soled and heeled so she can wear them.
Anyway Mum, I hope you are doing ok and that Gramps is looking after you.
Miss and love you so much
All my love
Pen xxx